As a friendship of 4 years came to a sudden halt, 😩 I realized that it had been based on me playing the victim and my friend trying to rescue me.
As I had gotten better, I started to talk with my friend about the things I wanted to explore 😃 and what I wanted to do with my life.
⭕ I also expressed that I wanted to step back from the 10 hours of volunteer work I was doing each week for her non-profit.
It had felt good for a while, when I wasn’t ready to embark on something new and I was taking care of my health, but that phase felt complete.
⭕ From that point on, there was a shift in our friendship, she didn’t take kindly to this new desired direction of mine and for a few reasons our friendship came to an abrupt halt a few short months later.
❌ She had no-one to rescue anymore and I was done, playing the victim role.
⭕ It’s hard to admit at the time, but I was pleased about the attention I was getting while I wasn’t well.
It was more attention, love and care than I’d had for a long time, and while I wouldn’t wish adrenal fatigue on anybody, and certainly wouldn’t ever like to go through it again with that severity, it was a time when I did feel cared for.
Just as it was for me, this can be a very tough question to ask yourself.
❓✅ Are you willing to let go of the payoffs that are keeping you in burnout, and are you ready to break up with the you that got you burnt out?
It can be helpful to simply divide a page into 2 columns and answer these questions with as many reasons as you can think of.
➡️ What are the benefits of staying sick?
➡️ What are the benefits of being well?
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Much love,
Lisa